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October 28, 2008

More on Gay Marriage

Filed under: Uncategorized — Tags: , , , , — choosetheright @ 6:55 pm

This article was recently published in the Deseret News.  I have cut out some parts, because it is pretty long, but there was so much said so well I just had to leave it.  I added some emphasis for those of you who just want the meat.

Disagree but don’t be unkind
By Orson Scott Card
Published: Thursday, Oct. 23, 2008

Some people have misunderstood the LDS Church’s position on Proposition 8 in California, and its opposition to gay marriage. They think that we are “against homosexuals” — that we think of “them” as our enemies, and that individuals who have entered into “gay marriages” pose a direct personal threat to us.
So let’s set the record straight.

… So our concern in this legal struggle is not for the church, but for the health and well-being of society at large, of which we are only a part.

2. We do not believe that homosexuals, by entering into a “marriage,” are personally hurting anybody. Where the law makes such a thing available, even temporarily, those who “marry” are not our enemies. We believe the law is wrong and the marriage is not, in any meaningful way, what we mean by marriage.

…My family and I have close friends who are gay, some of whom have entered into lawful marriages. They know we don’t agree that their relationship is the same thing or should have the same legal status as our marriage, but we all accept that strong and clear difference of opinion and move on, continuing to respect and love each other for the values we share.

Only when a gay friend demanded that I agree with his or her point of view or cease to be friends has the friendship ended. What is odd is that in every case they called me intolerant. They misunderstood the meaning of “tolerance.”

Tolerance implies disagreement — it means that even though we don’t agree with or approve of each others beliefs or actions, we can still live together amicably. When we agree, we aren’t being tolerant, we’re being uniform.

It’s uniformity or submission these former friends wanted, not tolerance at all.

4. Only those who try to use the force of law to promote homosexual behavior and homosexual marriage to our children, and who would forbid us to publicly teach and express our belief that marriage is only meaningful between heterosexual couples, move into the category of enemies of freedom. And that will be because of their attempt to suppress religious freedom, freedom of speech and press, and the right of parents to control their children’s moral education.
We do not think that any belief system, whether it calls itself a religion or not, should be imposed on other people by law — we won’t impose ours on them, and we won’t let them impose theirs on us or our families.

There is no place for any Latter-day Saint to be unkind to, or speak slightingly of, those who disagree with us. Just because someone else is engaging in conduct that we believe is wrong does not give us the right to hate them or mistreat them. We preach the gospel of Christ to any who are willing to listen, but we will force our beliefs on no one.

We would never try to force our beliefs on an unwilling majority, and we hope that our opponents on this issue will have the same respect for democracy and the Constitution.

In fact, I believe that even those who absolutely believe in gay marriage should join us in opposing any law that is forced on an unwilling majority by the dictates of judges. For those that are wise will recognize that once judges are given such power, that power has as much chance of being used against them as for them.

What are the reasons that we, as citizens, oppose gay marriage?

Legalizing gay marriage has huge legal implications far beyond letting same-sex couples enter into marriage contracts. Once “marriage” has been so radically redefined, it will become unlawful and discriminatory for schools or any other public facility to favor, for instance, heterosexual dating or dancing.

Since our culture (like all human cultures throughout all of history) is oriented toward promoting the maximum opportunity for reproductive success for all members of the community, but channeled in a way that will best promote the survival of the community, such a radical change should not be entered into lightly.

Yet serious examination of scientific, historical, and legal issues has been all but drowned out by name-calling and demands for “rights.”

Why do we oppose legalizing gay marriage?

…Growing up with opposite-sex parents, but in a society that has normalized and actively promotes one-sex marriages, will certainly affect the children of opposite-sex parents, potentially tipping the balance for children whose sexual identity is still formable.

No serious attempt has been made to consider anything more than a general feeling that “tolerance is good” and “discrimination is bad.” Yet we are proceeding headlong into a vast social experiment whose consequences, as far as we can see, risk serious damage to many in order to create only the most marginal benefit for a few.”


This actually cleared up a few things for me, and said what I was trying to say on my last post on this topic.  I know this subject can get heated, and is highly controversial, please let this be a place to share your voice respectful of everyone’s differing opinions.


October 24, 2008

Where is the love?

Filed under: Politics — Tags: — choosetheright @ 10:40 pm

The country seems so incredibly divided at this time.  Prop 8 in California and 102 here in AZ about gay marriage, and the economy, and Obama/McCain supporters seem to split the population with extremely different opinions. 

I was listening to Glenn Beck today and he was talking about this.  And he was saying how much hatred there is between the parties. He said the first step to getting over this is admitting there is a problem.  Everyone is entitled to their opinions.  And everyone needs to respect other’s opinions. 

Sometimes I think I forget that.  I’ll be honest, and say that a lot of times I mumble about people who don’t believe the same as I do.  I think I’ll start to be part of the solution by stopping that.  I love debate and different opinions.  I think that’s part of the beauty of America. 

So I appriciate all your comments, and hope you can still feel the love. Even if we’re polar opposites.  🙂

October 23, 2008


Filed under: Politics — Tags: , — choosetheright @ 3:24 am

October 22, 2008


Filed under: Politics — Tags: , , — choosetheright @ 10:07 pm

So I’ve been tuning back into my talk radio.  Can’t help it, I’m hooked.  A lot has happened since my last post. (Powell’s endorsement, Biden’s prophecy,.. ) I don’t even know what to say about it.  I originally started this blog because I enjoyed the debate and conversation it stirred. It was a place for me to feel like I was voicing my opinion and getting out there somewhere in the blogosphere and standing for what I believe.  But the truth?  I’m a mommy-blogger.  Who happens to like political talk radio and agrees 99% of the time with Glenn Beck.  I don’t like controversy.  I thought on the blog I didn’t mind it, but really it started to consume me and I would be thinking about what to say all day!  And I got obsessed with statistics. 

So I took a break.

But now I just want to talk about a few things that I just don’t really get.  Like Obama’s association with the “New Party”, ACORN, Ayers, Rev. Wright, etc.  Isn’t obvious this man has really bad judgement??  Or he’ll do absolutely anything to get elected.  And his quote that I’ve heard 2,394 about “redistributing the wealth”.  Is everyone really willing to see the end of capitolism?  Do you really want to see the end of the best healthcare in the world?

There’s all this talk about change.  The change I’d like to see is going back to our roots.  Let’s READ the constitution.  Let’s end career politics.  It used to be that people would leave their farms and whatever, go to congress for two years, then go back to their life.  They stayed in touch with reality.  For the people, by the people.  I think we need to go back to the ideals and values America was founded on. 

I know this will never happen.  But I think McCain might be just a smidge closer than Obama.  Not that either is a saint.  (Notice I didn’t even post about the last two debates?  Just disgusting.)  I really don’t think the election is “over”, as much of the media has said.  Almost everyone is saying it will certainly be president Obama.  I’m not so sure.  But even if it is, let’s hope he is who he says he is.  Let’s hope all the right-wing talking heads are wrong.  Let’s hope his association with Ayers means nothing.  Let’s hope our children’s future isn’t mortaged anymore than it is already. 

Anyone else ready for the whole thing to just be over?

October 13, 2008

Just sick of it

Filed under: Uncategorized — Tags: , — choosetheright @ 11:50 pm

So I’ve gotten really sick of politics lately.  I’ve started listening to K-Love, and country music, and turned off my talk radio. 

But then I missed it.

But I’m still kind of sick of it. 

A lesbian couple got married in San Fransico today.  One of them was an elementary school teacher.  Eighteen of her students came to the ceromony donning Prop. 8 buttons.  I have problems with this.

The stock market is back up.  Record high jumps.  Hard to get too excited when it crashes and goes up again and crashes again more than my favorite ride at Disneyland.

Talk of another round of stimulus checks.  Please government, please don’t.  Do us all a favor and work on this enormous debt.  Don’t create more.

I keep hearing that we’re becoming socialist.  Nationalizing everything.  I really have no clue.

I’m looking forward to the debate tomorrow night, but then again I’m kind of not.  I kind of can’t wait for the election to just be over.

Really what I care about the most right now is that it’s 75 degrees in Mesa, AZ.  And today my baby got her first tooth.  To me, this matters more than anything else right now.

October 3, 2008

VP Debate

Filed under: Politics — Tags: , , , — choosetheright @ 3:56 am

I’ll be honest, again I missed most of the debate, and it’s been a rough night for my baby.  But I listened to as much as I could.  I heard the beginning and the end, and some of the middle.  Here’s what I came away with.

Biden said something along the lines of the job of the VP is to support the President.  Every time Palin speaks, she always sounds so supportive of McCain.  Even though there are areas they disagree, and she open about that, she is very aware of his accomplishments and you hear her respect for him in her voice.  I think that’s so important and crucial to being VP.  I do not get that same impression from Biden.  The impression I get from Biden is “I’m better than you.” 

Palin brought up so many good points about education, taxes, oil, etc.  I agreed with about 90% of what I heard from her.  Maybe it’s because I put so much value on motherhood, but I think her experience is enough to qualify her for VP and even the presidency.  Right now a major issue is oil, and I really think that she knows exactly what she’s talking about when it comes to the oil supply in Alaska and taking on oil companies. 

I loved when she said that there are no promises made that they can’t keep.  And on major principles she’s never changed her mind.  But really tonight, I just liked her.  I relate to her.  She’s charming and real.  That in no way qualifies her for VP, but tonight I cried realizing here is a woman who is not so different than me and she’s running for VP.  American really is the land of opportunity.

But I’ll end by saying, she definitely held her own tonight and I think she hit the grand slam the McCain camp needed her to tonight.

(Oh, and I guess Gwenn Ifill didn’t do so bad afterall 🙂 )

October 1, 2008

More liberal bias in the media.

Filed under: Politics — Tags: , , — choosetheright @ 7:35 pm

Gwen Ifill is set to host the VP debate tomorrow night. 

Did you know she has a book due out on inauguration day?  Not just a book, a pro-Obama book.

Hmm, what bias could she possibly have that might influence the debate?

This woman will make money if Obama wins the election.

This is a horrible idea, and I hope they do something about it.  Even if Ifill is fair (and that’s a big if), you know everyone is going to scrutinize every comment and question.

Tired of all of the doom and gloom

Filed under: Economics — Tags: , , , , — choosetheright @ 3:11 am

Okay first of all… this is the biggest economic crisis in my lifetime, I’m sure.  All the news stations can talk about nothing else but the economy and this bailout plan, or whatever they’re calling it now.  And congress is taking a break from it for the Jewish New Year?!  I guess the collapse of our great nation can wait a day or two.  But honestly, is it really going to be the collapse of America?  Ron Paul has been comparing it to the collapse of the Soviet Union, and what happened to the Soviet Union was a financial collapse, not invaded, or anything else, it was financial.  Scary stuff.   I am glad the original bill did not pass.  I don’t know much about what’s on the floor right now. 

But here’s some optimism.

Glenn Beck: Hey, just remember one thing. Just remember who we are. Just remember what our rock is. Just remember it’s life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness. We’re going to make it through anything as long as we stay together and we don’t stay together on stupid things. You know, marriages never work that are just built on a sham where you kind of just, you know, seven years into it, you went, what the hell did I marry this person for. Know why we married into this system. We married capitalism because it is the first system that really truly freed people. We married in the life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness. We married our Constitution, and that’s an eternal kind of marriage. Just refresh yourself this weekend, I want you to know. Because when we know who we are, when we know who gives us the power, when we know that there are good people around us that believe the same thing, when we educate ourselves, we can survive anything. It’s going to get rough but we’re going to survive anything because that’s who Americans really are, survivors.

I’m not sure it’s going to get that rough.  But I am working on that garden.  And I think if I see any good bargains I might stock up on some clothes and shoes for Olivia for next year while my dollar is actually worth something. 

But maybe I’m silly and this is like the y2k when everyone thought the world would end, and my grandparents filled their basement with toilet paper and canned goods.

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