Okay most of this can be found in my last comment on my last post, but there are some things I want to reiterate. First of all, I believe there is a Prophet of God living on the Earth today. I believe he receives direct revelation from our Father in Heaven. I have prayed about what I am about to post and have pondered it in my own heart and mind and found these things to be true:
The Family: A Proclamation to the World
The First Presidency and Council of the Twelve Apostles of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints
All human beings—male and female—are created in the image of God. Each is a beloved spirit son or daughter of heavenly parents, and, as such, each has a divine nature and destiny. Gender is an essential characteristic of individual premortal, mortal, and eternal identity and purpose.
In the premortal realm, spirit sons and daughters knew and worshiped God as their Eternal Father and accepted His plan by which His children could obtain a physical body and gain earthly experience to progress toward perfection and ultimately realize his or her divine destiny as an heir of eternal life. The divine plan of happiness enables family relationships to be perpetuated beyond the grave. Sacred ordinances and covenants available in holy temples make it possible for individuals to return to the presence of God and for families to be united eternally.
The first commandment that God gave to Adam and Eve pertained to their potential for parenthood as husband and wife. We declare that God’s commandment for His children to multiply and replenish the earth remains in force. We further declare that God has commanded that the sacred powers of procreation are to be employed only between man and woman, lawfully wedded as husband and wife.
We declare the means by which mortal life is created to be divinely appointed. We affirm the sanctity of life and of its importance in God’s eternal plan.
Husband and wife have a solemn responsibility to love and care for each other and for their children. “Children are an heritage of the Lord” (Psalms 127:3). Parents have a sacred duty to rear their children in love and righteousness, to provide for their physical and spiritual needs, to teach them to love and serve one another, to observe the commandments of God and to be law-abiding citizens wherever they live. Husbands and wives—mothers and fathers—will be held accountable before God for the discharge of these obligations.
The family is ordained of God. Marriage between man and woman is essential to His eternal plan. Children are entitled to birth within the bonds of matrimony, and to be reared by a father and a mother who honor marital vows with complete fidelity. Happiness in family life is most likely to be achieved when founded upon the teachings of the Lord Jesus Christ. Successful marriages and families are established and maintained on principles of faith, prayer, repentance, forgiveness, respect, love, compassion, work, and wholesome recreational activities.[Not sure if it has any meaning, but I find it very interesting that love is not the first principle by which marriages are successful.] By divine design, fathers are to preside over their families in love and righteousness and are responsible to provide the necessities of life and protection for their families. Mothers are primarily responsible for the nurture of their children. In these sacred responsibilities, fathers and mothers are obligated to help one another as equal partners. Disability, death, or other circumstances may necessitate individual adaptation. Extended families should lend support when needed.
We warn that individuals who violate covenants of chastity, who abuse spouse or offspring, or who fail to fulfill family responsibilities will one day stand accountable before God. Further, we warn that the disintegration of the family will bring upon individuals, communities, and nations the calamities foretold by ancient and modern prophets.
We call upon responsible citizens and officers of government everywhere to promote those measures designed to maintain and strengthen the family as the fundamental unit of society.
So of course this is an ideal situation. This is what we are striving for. This is what I want for me and my posterity. In every situation it does not work like this. There are tragedies in this world. For reasons we may not understand God lets things happen to some families where they are in situations with only one parent in the home. These things may or may not be part of His plan. God has given us our free agency and let us choose our actions. Hopefully we use our agency wisely, but God cannot control the actions of anyone. We may not understand why at first, but hopefully, usually down the road we may come to understand why certain things happened. However, choosing to divorce because you have fallen out of love, or living together and bringing children into the world before marriage contradict this plan. My feelings on homosexuality is very controversial today. Years ago I would have been in the majority. But I honestly believe we are all given challenges in this life. If someone’s challenge is same-gender attraction I believe it is something they need to control and overcome. I know that may sound appalling to some of you, but what about people who are born with a natural attraction to children? We would never condone the behavior of letting someone give in to these temptations and molest little children. I am not putting child molesters in the same category as gay people, but I think the principle is the same.
And a quote from an outside source:
According to Jeffrey Satinover, M. D., a psychiatrist and member of the Department of Politics at Princeton University, there is no more important reason to prohibit same-sex marriage than the effects it would have on children. And he doesn’t say this for sentimental reasons. He says it because it’s sound science.
“In every area of life, cognitive, emotional, social, developmental … at every phase of the life cycle … social evidence shows that there are measurable effects when children lack either a mother or a father. … The evidence is overwhelming. Mountains of evidence, collected over decades, show that children need both mothers and fathers.” (read the whole article here: http://www.catholiceducation.org/articles/homosexuality/ho0090.html )